couple_in_in_fieldIn today’s world all you hear is “we are in a relationship, so we dating.’ One thing we fail to realize as Christians however is that, there is a difference between Dating someone and courting someone. I personally think courtship is a more scriptural way to meet a prospective spouse than dating. BTW: You may be using the word date but not necessarily have the same understanding as this definition. If you say you date but don’t do what I define as dating, then you are practicing courting, although you might still use the term dating.

In my opinion, the difference between the two is in the motif. Courtship is the way to go. It’s built on the foundations of true love, which is: trust, friendship, mutual respect, care. When people are courting, they are in the business with the sole aim of marrying. It doesn’t involve unnecessary intimacy and touching of intimate body parts that are reserved for marriage. Christians in courtship invite God into their relationship.

My definition of dating is having a romantic time with a loved one.  It often involves romantic talk, holding hands, kissing, making out, and oftentimes sex. There is intimacy, without commitment! This is not biblical! I’ve also heard of a type of dating known as ‘Blind dating’. Is that biblical? For dating, it’s all about two people trying to find their way out. The ideology is ‘we are intimate, yet we may not marry’. That lacks the foundation on which love is built. The results of dating is the unnecessary break ups we see these days.

Choosing a spouse is a major decision that requires a lot of patience and maturity. Is there any required age for courtship as Christians? Should Christians ‘Date’? Your views and comment are welcome. Don’t forget it’s courtship ……Not dating. May The Lord bless and keep you all.

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